The Dark Side of Scorpio Men…

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Excerpt from the Book “How to Spot a Bastard by His Star Sign” by Adele Lang.

Being in the early stages of a relationship with a Scorpio man, I find this to be a real fucking hoot.

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All those dark, brooding, monosyllabic types, who fill the pages of cheap romantic novels with their strong jaws and piercing eyes, are Scorpios. You know the story: boy meets girl. Boy tortures girl because of a series of very silly misunderstandings and because he enjoys it. Girl becomes a psychological wreck. Boy sweeps girl into his arms and mumbles something about undying love. (He has to sweep her into his arms because by this stage the poor woman has completely fallen apart.). This is where the book ends. There is a very good reason for this. Mills & Boon know what is to come is far too awful to be published. Yet, this paperback ideal of love still manages to override the common sense of most women. We find the strong, silent, manipulative type irresistible. And we sit prettily on our hope chests with our long auburn curls in charming disarray, waiting breathlessly with much fluttering of eyelashes for Scorpio to stride into our lives. (NB: Romantic heroes never walk, they always stride – manfully and purposefully. Its dreadfully tiring for them, and its one of the reasons why they are so moody and irritable.) And once a Scorpio bastard arrives? Well, there’s nothing like a spot of good-old-fashioned-bodice-ripping to get things started. Just swoon gracefully into his arms and let him have his wicked way with you. Then have your head examined.

The strong, silent type is what you should look for when purchasing white goods. Whilst these are desirable attributes in a washing machine, you won’t enjoy them in Scorpio. He is strong. Much stronger than you. Which means when there’s a fight, you’ll lose. And he is silent. Which means communication within the relationship is going to be a little one-sided. Holding back information is actually one of his favourite pastimes. Mostly because it upsets you. Well, what did you expect? Anyone described as “dark” and “brooding” is not going to be a naturally open, caring, sharing person. And Scorpio has a dark side that makes Darth Vader look like Mr. Whippy. As for brooding ability, he leaves Heathcliffe out on the moors: he’ll hold a grudge against you until the day you die. And your death will only appease him a little. However, you’ll never even know he has a grudge against you. A Scorpio bastard won’t confront you openly. That would be too much like fair play. He’s more likely to watch and wait – decades if necessary – for the chance to launch an attack when you’re not paying attention. And when it finally hits, it’ll make a stealth bomber look weak and clumsy.

Unfortunately, because of the amount of literature (if books featuring Fabio on the cover, count as literature) you’ve absorbed, you’ll class all his behavior as normal. You’ll revel in all the angst. Being miserable all the time must mean it’s true love. This is all so romantic. You’ll even be flattered by his possessiveness (despite the fact that you’re not allowed to go anywhere of see anyone). It means he can’t bear to be without you. Of course, he can’t bear to be with you either – not when there are still so many things wrong with you.

He’ll manipulate you until you become exactly what he wants you to be. Then he’ll lose respect for you, as you’re so easily manipulated. Then he’ll start looking around for someone else to manipulate. This is when you start looking around too. For reputable psychiatric help. Because, in the midst of torturing you, Scorpio will suddenly turn into a model of gentleness and consideration. He’ll even be kind to animals (standard behavior for all romantic hero types – designed to suck you into believing they have a soft, sensitive side). Don’t be fooled. Its just part if the callous game he’s playing with your mental and emotional health. His objective is to annihilate you. But if he can make you believe he is capable of such an act, it makes it all so much more fun when he actually does destroy you.

And destroy you he will. This is what Scorpio does best. And besides, its how he likes to spend his spare time. Once you are a broken mess on the floor he’ll pick you up and glue the pieces, so you are whole once more, and he can start all over again. He takes his hobby very seriously. It brings him hours of enjoyment and allows him to explore his destructive talents. And you’ll get something out of it too. A hobby of your own: a lifelong obsession with him. Which allows you to spend your spare time in expensive 12-step programs undergoing extensive counselling. Check into group therapy when you find yourself getting upset just because he is sleeping with other women. It’s really none of your business. You are only his girlfriend / wife / mother of his children. And anyway, you’ll meet his mistress soon enough when she joins the group after she discovers he is doing the same thing to her. Then you can console each other about your mutual stupidity. You’ll both be introduced to a nationwide Unhealthily Obsessed Co-dependant Support Network for Women who have dated Scorpio. It comes with a 24-hour hotline, which you’ll put to very good use. (This is a free-of-charge service, one of many sponsored by the Aspiring Romantic Novelists Association who use it for research purposes.)

The reason Scorpio inspires such obsessive behavior is because he is so obsessive himself – about sex. He thinks about it twice as much as other men, which basically means it’s on his mind all the time. Which makes him the blueprint for the complete and utter bastard. Which in turn, makes women think he’s sexy. Which therefore means he really can’t help but catch one or two of the airborne little-black-dress-clad oestrogen packages continually heading his way. (Warning: Don’t be tempted to have an affair yourself to get back at your Scorpio bastard. Right now, you’re in no emotional state to witness a jealous streak the size of the San Andreas Fault. This is probably unnecessary advice, as you won’t have time between those ever-increasing therapy sessions and that compulsive shopping habit you recently developed. And, lets face it, the nervous twitch and chronic alcoholism aren’t exactly going to be attracting men in droves.)

If it helps your sanity, blame the other poor, obsessed women. Or their therapists. Or the government. Or, better yet, blame yourself. No one forced you to read all those ridiculous love stories. You wanted a club-wielding, hair-dragging, heroic bastard. You’ve got him. Now you have to live with him. So, just throw yourself into his arms or under the next passing truck. Either way, the ending will be the same.

HOW TO SPOT ONE
When a Scorpio bastard looks at you, you will feel a strong urge to shed your underwear. He will have this baffling effect upon you, even if you’re in a very public place and you find him most unattractive.

WHERE TO FIND ONE
Follow the trail of emotional wrecks to his door. Or, better still, let him find you. Because then, at least, you won’t be the one who started the relationship which ruined your life.

HOW TO INTRIGUE ONE
Be sunny and happy and full of life. He won’t be able to resist the challenge of luring you into the pits of hell. Once there, just be whatever he wants you to be. Holding onto your personality will only cause you a lot of unnecessary pain.

THE FIRST DATE
Scorpio will charm you into submission. Or else he’ll worm his way into your life and affections without you noticing – like cancer or some other terminal disease. And after just one date, he’ll know everything there is to know about you, and you’ll know absolutely nothing about him. This sets the tone for the entire relationship.

WHEN TO DO THE DEED
Because Scorpio has so many hidden agendas, you’ll never be able to pick the right time. So go to bed when he wants to, generally just after you’ve been introduced. (Tip: When you do it, make like a porn star, but somehow give the impression you’ve never done it before.)

WHEN TO POP THE QUESTION
When you feel the inclination to do this, have yourself committed.

IF HE DROPS YOU
Trying to exact revenge will only serve to amuse Scorpio, as your attempts will seem so amateur. Besides, he’ll be flattered he still has total control over your emotions and your life. On the other hand, running after him, doing your best impersonation of a doormat will only invite him to clean his boots on you. Don’t waste your energy. You’ll need it over the next few years, just to get through therapy.

IF YOU DROP HIM
He’ll get over it. If, however, he thinks you’ve slighted him, its best to watch out for yourself and take extra precautions for the next ten or 20 years – at least.

105 comments
  1. Ginger said:

    Omg, this is the pattern I see with a Scorpio I am leaving……… I am a 48 year old cancer women. I am fed up off and on 6 months…… On to the next one…… Let him put the nail in the coffin, play dead and move on…….. Don’t look back sometimes you have to loose the war to winter war…….. Let others love you.. Share the love and be happy

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    • Theresa said:

      I am a cancer female and regrettably, fell for a scorpio man. I was with him for a few years, I thought he was the love of my life. How wrong was I. The article depicted that creeps profile exactly. He manipulated me, chronically lied, had multiple women, The lying, cheating, and manipulation was pathological. I left him for 6 months at a time, each time I got back he did the same thing over and over again, he would pursue me, and swear on his sons eyesight that he wasn’t with anyone. He was a pathological sociopath, fit the criteria perfectly. He had an agenda for every move he made, with no conscience. I was a doormat always wanted to believe him, I went through emotional hell. Every move is a mind game, so he can make you doubt yourself, confuse and play passive aggressive. If you suspect your scorpio man of this behavior, it is not your imagination, repeat: It is not your imagination. Please get out!!!! I am still trying to get back my strength, independence and emotional state. It’s been 8 months since I left him.

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      • Good luck to you gaining your strength and self love back! I know it’s a hard road but take it a day at a time.

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      • BK said:

        You know how they do it? They don’t LIE per say, they walk a fine line of truth and non-truth so when confronted, they can prove their point whilst making you feel like you’re losing your damned mind.
        They are dangerous, in my opinion. I’ve been with two of them and as an Aries, have walked out, head held high and not looked back. If they cannot see how awesome I am, they do NOT deserve me and I am way better off without them. I had the fortune of running into the first one recently while he was at a bridal show with his fiance’. It was sweet, seeing him there while I was a vendor, running my own company. He tried to play nice, but I was stone-faced the entire time. I suspect they will not be hiring me to do their wedding lol!
        The second one finds convenient excuses not to show up when he says he will and does not bother to call, text, or otherwise. And when I would get mad at him and stop talking to him altogether he would come running like a wounded puppy. I now understand that was his Achilles heel. I will not be talking to him again in the future. I am so done with Scorpios. So not worth my time. I am NOT second rate and I refuse to be treated like second rate. Love me or not, but if not, take a hike. I don’t need your sorry excuse of a man. :-P

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      • Truly amazing how many horror stories women have of Scorpio men!

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      • MB said:

        @BK – No. They lie, plain and simple. White lie. Black lie. A lie is a lie. The Scorpio man stalking my daughter promised her the world if she’d give her heart to him.

        My daughter, a strong Scorpio herself, saw right through him. She counter-asked, “Will you give your heart to me and stop your 3 a.m. booty-calls?” to which he replied, “Don’t ask for that.” When she told him that he shouldn’t ask the same of her, he tells her with that arrogant look, “I’ve made up my mind. You’re mine and I won’t let any other man take you from me”, to which she responded, “Monogamy isn’t a one-way street” and promptly dumped him for better guys.

        She’s a proud Scorpio who never plays second fiddle in *any* relationship. She’s moved on. He can’t stop stalking her. Now she’s seeing a wonderful and handsome Taurean male whose father is a successful lawyer and partner in a prestigious law firm – which might come in handy if that Scorp tries to approach her and try and intimidate her to make her come back to him.

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  2. Anonymous said:

    Oh boy, I am possibly getting started with one.. Well it kind of started over a year ago but due to a move and his attempts at mind-bending it’s been draggggged out. We are young, 21 and 22, so maybe we can stop the bad habits before they get started.. prevention… but, ohhhh boy, a lot of this rings true. The possessiveness. We don’t even have an agreement to each other but the shielding from other men (or attempts. i am so far away :P) are there. And flattering, at this distance. Maybe if we can keep this thing relatively sane without letting it heat up too quick, this article won’t apply!

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  3. Tripnik said:

    Wow…. My Scorpio to the core.. He’s in jail for domestic violence on me… After only 10 months of dating

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  4. Anonymous said:

    This is so accurate i couldn’t stop laughing!! Especially the HOW TO SPOT ONE section. Unbelievable! Is it too late to run and never look back??

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  5. Anonymous said:

    Omg.. This describes my scorpio completely. Been off and on with him for about 8 years. And as a Capricorn, he can be too much to deal with at times.

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  6. April said:

    WOW!!! What a waste of a life an ne e r find true happiness. He tried to play me I called him out on his B S. He went silent, no fighting back nothing. Should I be worried?

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    • Anonymous said:

      yes mam april
      I am a scorpio
      that mf is just testing you with the silence
      ….I would say slowly let him go….. very slowly and make him happy so he won’t think twice to come back at ya lol

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  7. ocolshit said:

    Just remember everyone this is just the dark side of Scorpio men ;) They have so many redeeming qualities like loyalty, depth of love, passion, and confidence!

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    • Theresa said:

      There was absolutely, unequivocally NO LOYALTY!!!

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    • MB said:

      There’s no loyalty unless it’s for himself! He’s a huge fan of double standards – for HIM and for him ONLY. They have a noun for that…it’s called hypocrite.

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    • Virgo female with little knowledge of people said:

      scorpions are not loyal unless they are in a circumstance where they have to be loyal for a certain time or they are the old generation where they were a little more reliable in terms of love affair

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  8. ayy, im a scorpio, im 19 years old, and most of that is true, but its only like that because of bad experiences we been through, we are more then the dark side that ever one points out, who don’t have a darkside? like scarface say ”you need people like me to point your finger at and say that’s the bad guy”. but really most woman want control and want a nigga to just give in, it don’t work like that

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    • Goddess69 said:

      Some women want to give the control to their man, granted he’s trustworthy and has the vision to lead us I’m the right direction. That’s why Scorpio men are good with cancer women. I’m in no way weak but I’m feminine and lovely enough to let a man be a man. Even at 19, you sound very strong in your words. I hope you sore like an eagle and never crawl like a lizard, no matter what life deals you.
      Take care, young Sir.
      Scem629@gmail.com

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      • Scp Woman said:

        You’re nuts and completely brainwashed if you think a Scorpio man will lead you in the right direction. Let him destroy you and see how you feel then. I’ve been there–twice.

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      • I kind of agree… Still feeling the burn from one.

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  9. Jamie said:

    A little one sided, we Scorpio men are bastards and that’s it! they’re are so much good about Scorpios, just don’t wrong them.

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    • Oh I know.. This is quite funny to read but obviously an exaggeration. I’m dating a scorpio man now and he’s lovely.

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      • Anonymous said:

        Just seems a bit harsh, makes me feel bad

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  10. maria said:

    my god.i just got saved from entering into a relatiopnship with this fu****ng scorpio bastard…they are really mean.plz girls if u r fun loving person dont ever commit to a scorpio.

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  11. Anonymous said:

    damn. this was hilarious and slightly terrifying at the same time. as a cancer i’ve fallen for a scorpio and it’s a constant battle of emotions with him. he’s just hiding things and playing it cool because he’s been hurt before (obviously) and thinks that all women run game so he has to do that same.

    as far as them being mean, he says slick things out of his mouth that i often overlook, i don’t feel damaged by it. i am a caring and sharing kind of girl but i also have a sense of humor and grain of sarcasm that carries me. i find that it’s just (telling the truth) that they can’t handle so actually they’re the ones who lose and not us.

    if you’re the type of girl that needs constant attention then being with a scorpio is not for you. when they GIVE you the attention it’s addictive but sooner or later it falls off, suddenly, and you’re left wondering what happened and why you’re so hooked on it in the first place? they commit themselves to a lot of things unnecessarily because they like adventure even though they seem stand off-ish, but that will get in the way of his ability to commit his time and efforts to you fully.

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    • collins said:

      wow!!!..you are very correct,I’m a scorpio and i’m actually going through what u said in your first paragraph.

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  12. ann-onymous said:

    I have to say that I adored the article. It was extremely hilarious and I found myself really laughing out loud. Moreover, the English is impeccable, which I truly appreciate. I am a Libra sun with Sag rising moon. My Scorpio off-on boyfriend since Nov 2013 (he’s in his 50s, and I’m in my 40s!) has sent me to the brink of insanity and in all honesty, I did have to go through therapy because he had taken out a lot of his past baggage on me to the point of me harboring suicidal ideations. Thank goodness I never allowed myself to be hurled over the precipice into the abyss far below, catapulted into clinical depression, only by sheer willpower and the refusal to admit to defeat. He was damaged as a child and his ex wife is still torturing him, hence I became his proverbial punching bag. I do stand up to him sometimes, but otherwise I am extremely patient with him. With my Sag rising traits, from the second he began pursuing me, I had the strongest urge to run from him, but I was caught and stood there stripped to the core, mesmerized by the scorpion circling me with his mighty stinger poised and ready to strike, should I had even dared to sneeze.
    The first three months were blissful, romantic and utterly intense. Then came the mental and emotional abuse. He held me in his powerful pincers and continously lashed out at me. I was told by psychics to stand my ground as I was helping him heal his hurt, and that I would be spared the pain later when I felt that I could not go on, and that later this year, all things will turn around and he will love me more than he ever did in the past, and next year ask me for my hand in marriage. I think his venom just made my neuromuscular system so numb, affording me the strength to endure his pain for him while he chose to neglect me except to vindictively jab and prod me intermittently with that stinger of his to ensure that I was still breathing. I clung on by sheer willpower. True to their predictions, he is now returning to me with renewed interest, even though he kept me around all this time, while I lived my own life and would be there for him when he needed me. He has been testing me and is now finally coming to terms with how he truly feels for me, and knowing that I loved him in spite of everything I went through with and for him. I know that he IS the one, as he is learning that I am the one for him.
    I had only ever been with Leos and have never experienced anything with a Scorpio. I had begun reading about astrological traits within this month and have learned so much about Scorpios, and had grown a lot through my ordeal with him. I know to allow him to take the lead in some things, but to never back down when I know I am right.
    The ride will still be bumpy for a little while, but I’m prepared for it. Obsession, you say? I win that category, hands down. Strength, you mention? I’ll share that one with him, true to my Libra sun self.
    Why, you ask? Because he’s special, and I am a healer by trade.

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    • ocolshit said:

      Great comment!! You might be interested in checking out the book with similar pieces for each star sign. Very funny stuff check out the link above.

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      • ann-onymous said:

        I cannot wait to read it.

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  13. Preethi D'souza said:

    First & foremost not all scorpios are bastards..Im in love with one for a yr & a half n he loves me crazy….
    mills & boons are just fictional books ,you hav just characterized all the guys from mills & boons as scorpios…i have read a few mills & boons & trust me nowhere does it state that the guys are scorpio.
    my guy is strong,silent manipulative only those who have used or manipulated him & absolutely irresistable.these men take time to know their women,yeah they crave sex but they respect you & your body more…
    Its true I lose many fights but den not all are winners & if it means losing a fight to save your relation & letting go of your ego,im all for it…i cant lose him.Yes! hes the silent type ,only talks what he wants to,wont pour out his heart & cry at the drop of a hat.Its not that holding back information is his favourite passtime,he holds back cause hes afraid of being hurt & dissapointed…he’s felt & seen pain,they are human after all.
    He holds a grudge but against those who have used him,played with his feelings never against those who love him.We fight a lot but he holds no grudge against me…yes hes hurt at times cause being a sagittarius i’m quite outspoken & blunt…
    He admits that he is not a saint…he is a scorpio,tell me now which other guy from any sign says that..my guy is not possessive,surprisingly I am…he does not want to change me but yes he does point out facts which I find hard to digest..
    scorpios are kind to animals , my sister being a scorpio has two dogs but does not treat them differently…she loves them & calls them her children..they do have a sensitive side & trust me you have no idea of the wealth of emotions that run thru them for the people whom they love.
    scorpios are not destructive..they love one person & are loyal no matter what..I feel bad for the author…you just met the wrong person & trust me not all of them are like what you described here.
    OMG!!! he is so in love with himself but then thats perfectly ok…cause truth be told if you cannot love yourself how can you love another.we cannot be together but that doesnt mean i wont stand by him ..what you’ve written here is the work of a mean ,lost ,vindictive ,spiteful person who cant accept the fact that a scorpio left them cause of their hatefullness….

    HOW TO SPOT ONE- when a scorpio looks at you ,you know your desired .
    WHERE TO FIND ONE- they are everywhere….you will find them when you have to .
    HOW TO INTRIGUE ONE-be yourself,yes he loves a person full of life cause he knows your gonna be his salvation.
    THE FIRST DATE-he kept his distance, we spoke ,had donuts out ,kissed only my hand & wished me goodnight…i initiated the first kiss cause he was soooo carefull with me…ohh god!
    WHEN TO DO THE DEED – he gave me enough time,never forced himself…waited till I was ready.
    WHEN TO POP THE QUESTION- it wil happen in time….trust me.
    IF HE DROPS YOU -give them time ..they need their space so often at times you think its over ..but if your love is true they will be back…
    IF YOU DROP HIM- trust me its difficult to forget him…or drop him…

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    • ocolshit said:

      Great perspective! Indeed they are hard to forget :(

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    • Anonymous said:

      Great PERCEPTION its right on the money! You have to be with a SCORPIO and go through the dark side as well as the good for a long haul to realize how special he is then you will come to respect who he is as a real Man and his love AIN’T NO game! Truth and true to himself take it or leave it its Him!

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    • Anonymous said:

      Hey, am also a Sag girl and agree with you totally. I have been trying to figure my guy out for a couple of months. What I love about him is his honesty and loyalty. Yes they are not expressive like us but I can almost read between the lines. I sense that he is very shy when it comes to feelings but his actions tell it all.

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  14. I had posted a comment here about scorpios ..why is my post not showing….

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  15. Anonymous said:

    That’s the serpent form a Scorpio, I’m an Eagle, all Scorps aren’t alike #FYI

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  16. ann-onymous said:

    I read the book. It’s absolutely hilarious, such a fun read that I devoured it in no time at all. Thank you for calling our attention to the book.

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      • Anonymous said:

        Well I’m in a relationship with my best friend who is a Scorpio an he was always there in the beginning staying over hanging out an then he stop. I barley see him all we do is text an I think he is living a double life he is so secretive. I ask to see him some times an it’s always a excuse I recently seen something on his IG page which has me to believe he is living a double life I put the pieces together times dates ect an.I think he is living it but if he was my BestFriend why not just keep it real with me I don’t kno if it’s true hope it’s not because I will be hurt an heart broken. Tell me what do you think I should do??

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      • ocolshit said:

        Trust is the foundation of every relationship worth having. If you don’t trust him you need to determine if that’s an issue with you, or an issue with him.

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  17. Queen Cobra said:

    So on point, I enjoyed reading this..Great pointers

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  18. Anonymous said:

    I’m a Scorpio and this stuff is not true for all of us. And I say not All of us because I has a twin and he is a barnyard.

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  19. becky said:

    One lil thing: as an aries woman, i WILL come out on top. No man will ever drag me into the depths of hell. Try if you like but i will be on the cliff face looking down at you laughing at your well thought out but still ineffective attempt. There is a reason the aries are first in the zodiac!

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    • time to fuck you said:

      you can dream on that :D they dnt even care what you are bcz for them once u r gone u r nobody and just a piece of shit you may stand on top of the cliff face looking down at them but they still be the one standing on the road head high and watching if someone really exist . this is the reason this is the cruelest sign of all and the most powerful in all zodiac . by looking down at them will not hurt them it will honor them bcz they look down to them already , you cant hurt them bcz they hurt themselves several times before you do so they are use to it no problem if the new pain is stronger then the last one it will only encourage them .if you think you are proud they are prouder then you imagination . my advice never be their target it dont even matters to them even if you are HULK because they dont care . they always have a plan for revenge you wont be able to point what hits you and they will always attack when you dont expect it . remember women is always weak to men and if you think women is powerful then men without a help of another men give it a try in UFC and you will realize what men actually is if he puts no mercy on women .and between according to me only 3 % is true in zodiac`s infact zodiac`s are written by peoples like you and me .

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      • Becky said:

        That’s their opinion and I could give a rats patoot what they think. They are nothing to me. They do not deserve me and they will not have me. I am beyond them. I am unreachable. They may be cruel, but that is their weakness that causes their own pain and suffering and I refuse to feel sorry for them. Conversely, I have no intention of hurting them either. If I do, that lends credence to their master plan and quite frankly, I refuse to stoop to that level. Further, I don’t care enough about them or their master plan to play along. Maybe some women are weak, but I have never been nor will I ever be. It takes a hell of a strong man to keep up with me. My motto is keep up or get out of my way. If you read up on the Aries sign, I am absolutely all of that right down to a fault, but I know this and accept this. I am who I am and love myself for it. My faults give me something to work on ;-)
        I scoff at the Scorpio and their pathetic lives. As they say in the Holy Grail, “I fart in your general direction, come back an I shall taunt you a second time” lol lol lol
        So yah, long story short, they can do whatever they want, but seriously, I’m not playing their game. I am smarter, wiser, and refuse to ever be victimized. I know what they’re about and I can spot one a mile away. I turn and saunter off. Let them watch ha!

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    • Anonymous said:

      And a Scorpio is looking down at you while your on your knees. Psh… Aries women.

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      • Anonymous said:

        If Scorpio is lucky enough to get an Aries on her knees, (you get the visual), it will be the heavens you are looking to my friend.

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  20. Scp Woman said:

    I’m a Scorpio Woman and I have loved two of these bastards. I can’t believe I was fool enough after the first one. Both of them played emotionally manipulative games that drove my self-esteem to nothing; they would pick fights all the time just to “make up” so that they could try to make everything “romantic” again. I lost all desire for the second one after the first 3-1/2 months, because I never felt the same after he started to talk about his ex and put me down repeatedly, accusing ME of starting the arguments! I can tell you, the women are much different than the men, at least I am. I don’t like fighting or playing games. My Chiron is in Aries and my Mercury is in Libra, so I pretty much tell it like it is! Not everyone likes that, but at least I’m up front; I don’t try to make people “guess” what I’m feeling and then attack them when they try. I know if I ever meet another Scorpio man, I will run for the hills and never look back; I have completely lost my self-confidence and sanity because of the last one. I deserve better than to be made to feel like garbage.

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  21. Jenn said:

    Lol I died laughing. Now everyone feel sorry for the poor Taurus female who attracts her Scorpio opposite like a magnet. I walk into public and they just find me – especially the moon sign Scorps. I’m almost an expert now at dealing with them. Almost. ;) The best way to wound them is to take away their ability to watch/observe you. Go silent and disappear so they can’t collect information on you. They are the types that would watch out on the perimeter for life if you allow it.

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    • pisceangoddess said:

      I am a Pisces and I attract Scorpio like no other. As far as their tantrums go….I just nod and agree. I flip it on them easily until they beg forgiveness. I am in no way weak willed or controllable. I know their game well. I just continue to mirror them or flip it. My scorpio man is very compliant and kind. They need to see themselves in a mirror. He has gotten assertive to push me into what he wants, I tell him he’s right and that I do understand it is an issue with me and something I have been working on for MYSELF, NOT HIM. He throws tantrums all the time when he doesn’t like something. You can never lash out and be mean, you have to boast him and point out his flaws in a professional manner. He understands that better. They like a powerful talented yet kind woman. YOU really gotta have it all. They don’t want a toy. I’ve never been phased by a scorpio. I am friends with many, even exes. Mine was spewing personal details a week in, he has been so sympathetic and even admitted fault, with actual correction. Handle him wrong, yes he will bastard out. You heard it from Pisces girls.

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  22. Anonymous said:

    ì am a scorpio woman octorber 28 to be precise, dating a scorpio man which coincidentally we share the same date…our relationship has been on and off, i dont really know him like i would have loved too, now i want u to advice if i should move on or just call it quit.

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  23. time to fuck you said:

    you stupid peoples are insane . stars never proves everything every soul is different star is only a prespective . ok there are somethings which might be true like revengeful , secretive , loner but not everything its person is judged by his nature not by stars . if u want to see a dark side of a person u will never find any 1 good , everyone has dark side but that dosent means he is borned asshole time makes a person evil nobody born evil . what u want that you go flirt with him cheat him and he say ohh HI how are u i am a fool please bite my ass ? its simple you hurt him he will hurt you in return for them everything is revenge and when its about revenge they will never leave you without having one if they betray you its bcz you give them the reason to hurt you in that manner . if u cant be real or if you cant commit to one guy then its simple scorpio is not for you find some other . and if you think you have forgotten them and turned your back on them and keep your face like a stone to them my advice you are stupid bcz they forgot you on the day they left you , for them you are invisible and dead you dont appear in their world . you might remember them as the one asshole, but they deny even knowing you ,for them you are dead , for them you r nothing more then a monkey who they kicked , if you think you made them jealous by showing with another man you are bitch bcz they dont even know you who are you , once they decide you are nobody , you are nothing more then a enemy or a monkey to them they dont care what you do , if you think its you who dont call them or look at them then you better watch out bcz they dont even give a shit about you from the day they left you . think 1 million times before you commit to a scorpio men , he dont like hookers or whores who cherish around several males , they are for 1 and they want 1 for them other are not even counted . you can only bark but you dont know the tortures they go through everyday , why not you put ur self in their boots and then play blame game ? ohh maybe you cant because you dont have guts to do that but ask these males they already put themselves on other boots to know how others are going through . you cant survive 1 day with a brain of a scorpio . they suffer it everyday the tortures in their brain . bcz the way they look on world u cant and can neevr bcz they feel and where u just see . this is the most simple sign of all zodiac which is manipulated too much and become difficult for others to understood . stay loyal to them they will stay loyal to you , you hurt/betray them they will open gates of hell on you because after that you nothing to them except a enemy or a target . motive is simple TIT FOR TAT. and I am not scorpio

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  24. jay said:

    Im a scorpio male and all I can think about is eating the hearts of the kind stupid women who have tried to love me. being a scorpio I obviously only have the emotional capacity of a roaring lion.LOLOLOLOL !!!!!!!!!!!!! being so sensitive myself , instead of saying something that might hurt someone I will wait to better understand my feelings(WE ARE NOT HIDING ANYTHING) . you may see me as moody but im wondering how you could be so stupid as to not know that you are boring , shallow, vain, and cruel.( YOU ARE NOT MY F****G JUDGE) you see me as standoffish but I see you as using social niceties to hide your lack of intelligence and cowardliness in standing in your personal truth.

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    • azrael said:

      Wow, that’s exactly how I feel about it. I’m a male Scorpio too. If a woman thinks I’m not sharing it’s because I have nothing to share.

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  25. Anon said:

    This is so true, I had the misfortune to marry one. He raped me throughout our marraige, I only had the courage to leave him when he turned on our daughter and sexually abused her. I also went out with a different scorpio, who beat me black and blue. These men, when dangerous are the most dangerous of all. Total sociopaths, devoid of empathy for anyone but themselves, stay away at all costs. I am a capricorn woman picking up the pieces of my own and my kids lives.

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    • MB said:

      My daughter is a Scorpio who, unfortunately, attracted a powerful, overly-proud, and wealthy Scorpio male ten years her senior. They had a short fling and she had already enough of his arrogance and promptly dumped his behind. He’s handsome, well-built, charming, charismatic – and a total sociopath.

      He’s been pursuing her for over a year and a half while he kept it a secret that he already had a gf who was expecting his first child! Even when his gf was ripe and ready to give birth to his daughter, he couldn’t let my daughter go. He still can’t let her go. He stalks her online, scares other men away who try to contact her, and has even flown back from another State (where he was spending a nice 4th of July weekend with his gf and her family!) when he realized she was going out on a date with another guy.

      He’s intimidated guys who wanted to date her: a doctor who really loved her (and she really fell for him) and a wealthy Brit, among a few. This Scorp guy had promised her the moon if she gave her heart to him; houses, boats, everything, but being a Scorpio herself – and a very intelligent one at that – she didn’t believe him and it turns out she was right to do so, but he won’t give up!

      She’s now seeing a wonderful Taurean who, thank god, has a successful attorney father who will go after that sob should he try to destroy this budding relationship as he had destroyed previous relationships. He’s told her that he’s made up his mind and that she belongs to him, and that if he’ll make sure that if she won’t be his mistress, he’ll ensure she’ll never be with another guy.

      Like I said…total sociopath.

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  26. hahaa love this! Perfectly accurate. I’ve been off and on with one for 5 years, he goes away months at a time not a word nd then he comes back, goes away..comes back, he’s put me through hell. he’s just asked for a break this morning as he feels I am manipulating him!! haha what a joke! I do hope he comes back tho, stupid me I actually love him (but I’m not allowed to tell him that)
    He will never destroy the life out in me though

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    • MB said:

      Why do you put up with it, fridayblack13? That’s an abusive relationship if ever I’ve heard of one.

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  27. Scorpio man said:

    All this is true, but only to the women who didnt prove worthy, and by prove worthy I mean born worthy, cause usually we know if you meet all qualifications immediately because who you truly are met our standards, but God help the women who come close because out of sheer loniless we’ll keep you around for as long as you can stand with no intentions of truly loving you

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    • MB said:

      Scorpio man…has it ever occurred to you that, being as intense as you are, YOU are the one getting hurt by all of this? Deep inside, you’re looking for your soul mate, but you’ll never find her/him if you keep pushing people away and acting like it doesn’t bother you. You know it does. I know how deeply Scorpios hurt after a break-up, and it’s not hard for other people to see. The fact that Scorpios can’t let go of a gf or bf – even for decades on end – is a sure sign that they’re the ones who can’t let go and are hurting more than the ones who have moved on. I.O.W., you become the loser in that relationship because of your inability to “let go”. You know this is true even if you won’t admit it on a public message board.

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  28. Can I just say, as an air sign I always get negativity for being detached.. Well let me tell you! It’s handy when you need to shut down the heart and be logical ;) scorpios are cool and engaging… But the epitome of a bully.. They have been hurt before, now it’s your turn. And we all know how to deal with bullies :p

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    • MB said:

      Air signs are THE BEST signs to deal with Scorpio bullies (and not all Scorpio men are bullies, but there are plenty who are). Air signs just walk away and can’t be touched…by anything, really.

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  29. I am a Scorpio with moon in Aries. I identify with a few points made in this post, namely: Obsession, high-needs, emotional unbalance, possessiveness, etc. I am also short tempered and can easily hold grudge. I forgive but NEVER forget. I think those are traits that can be commonly found in a lot of people not just Scorpios, but we tend to show them more. This may sound a bit cliche but the reason for that is because, just like a real scorpion, A Scorpio uses his claws think carapace and stinger to protect its extremely fragile innards. At least this holds true for me and a lot of my fellow Scorpio friends. We have a secret society where we get to hang out and get to know each other ha ha ha. Sometimes some scorpio can be overly defensive and their darker traits get worse… but that depends on how much stress and or trauma they have been through. I haven’t seen a cap at which those traits would stop scaling relative to the pain and scars so you could say that there are quite many scary Scorpios out there just like in the post or worse.

    I have been through quite a few relationships, serious and casual; 3 out of them I’ve devoted my entirety to and all have had me petrified and demolished, 1 of them did this on more than 1 occasion. I admit at some points I wanted to destroy them along with myself so that’s the vindictive trait there. I have also broken a few girls’ hearts and I stand responsible for all. Right now I’ve stayed single for more than 4 years and while the first 3 were somewhat unbearable, I have grown more and more resilient and more forgiving as a result. I still refuse to enter any serious relationship due to my uncertainty of any more possible troubles.

    I came to the conclusion that most Scorpios are aware of their shortcomings and often they beat themselves up over it constantly. This, combined with their non-conforming tendencies, odd-balled personality and the background of how much they have been through will decide what kind of a Scorpio they show on the outside. I assume that some can grow fond of manipulating their own dark traits and use them against others, self-defense or not. But you have to realize that a Scorpio’s life is a constant conflict between extremes, which dictates that no Scorpio is to be without scars. I guarantee you that. The Scorpios that have treated you badly are those that have most likely been abused way worse. I’m not defending their actions, I truly am sorry for what they have done to women. I just hope that if you do not wish to look inside him, please leave him and do it conclusively. He will not hold grudge if you leave on a strong note, but chances are high that he will do so if you are indecisive.

    I will say that it is a Scorpio’s own responsibility to take care of his own problems and to seek maturity through perseverance and a few drops of luck. I know that even though I still have a long way to go, I have made it through the difficult road forks and have grown to accept myself and live in balance with others but that takes a lot of time alone and self reflection. I also have my family and my most loyal companions to thank for my growth. It is the absolute foulest feeling to be left for dead and betrayed as a Scorpio so whether or not he can grow to be a better version of himself also depends on this.

    Speaking from experience, I suppose a Scorpio’s strength is not decided by that Scorpio, contrary to popular belief, and he can not just draw from that strength anytime he wants. Part of it is the cursed fate of resilience, which means Scorpios are good at SURVIVAL, almost nothing can bring us down completely, and even if there is then it is not for long periods of time. It is more of a curse and not a gift because we can not choose to self destruct. We will always grow from our own demise, for better or for worse. A better form of that strength is when we truly want to protect something: A belief, a way of life, our family, people and things we hold dear, etc. I can speak for myself alone that I will not hesitate giving up my life to protect what is truly precious to me, and whoever dares to harm it can be sure that I will spend my entirely life to destroy them and everything they hold dear, if not just outright end their lives. I am by nature a peaceful and tranquil being who would rather avoid violence, so it says a lot about a Scorpio’s vindictiveness. Conclusively speaking, our strength is not as simple as the post described it. It is not pure strength can be used at will to overwhelm people.

    I do not believe that it is any Scorpio’s true wish and life goal to harm anyone. If anything, whenever I want to do ill to someone, it is I who suffer the most, whether I show it or not. I do not say this for all Scorpios and you should not take my word for it, but Scorpios harm themselves more than they harm others, a lot more. They are by nature sacrificial beings which means they cannot hurt others without hurting themselves first. This holds true for me. Also, a Scorpio’s life long mission is to find truth within and without themselves, part of which is to find true happiness. This is a mission that is hard to accomplish if not outright impossible for most, so some can stray down the path of Asura- path of destruction. It is our curse and one can fight it if one wills but winning that battle or not is hard to say.

    TL:DR? It is not what it seems. I am sorry on behalf of my Scorpio brothers who have gone astray and for what they have made any woman go through. Please understand that it is not really our wish to harm others, even though it may be very hard to believe and rightly so. Please come to terms with the fact that we are broken beings ourselves and it does require a lot of love and compassion to handle us. We are selfish and you may think that we are more so than anyone else, but on the extreme corner of that selfishness is our desire to forsake ourselves in the name of love and giving. If you do not wish to be with us and or accept us, please do so harshly and conclusively and just forget about us. DO NOT think that you can change us be cause you can’t and I say that for your sake. Thank you for your understanding.

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  30. ali said:

    Well i am a 27 year old scorpio and i am shocked to read this article! i think its written by a very baised person a very negative person and without any knowledge of the depth of our zodiac sign we are the most sexual powerful sun sign in the whole zodiac which clearly explains the jealousy of the writter plus one thing is very importent for any person’s behavior not matter what zodiac they belong to ones good up bringing reflects a lot in a men or women personality all i want to say is there is no other sign who can take you to the peak of sexual pleasure like us there is no one who can explain the mysteries behind life and death and rebirth there is loyalty and honesty within our selves it depends how our partner understands us if you stay in a relationship for a year or six months its not enough to know all about any person of any zodiac in this short time and misunderstandings are obvious we love the loyol who need us for true love for safety srcurity and passion to full fill there worldly and holly dreams stay pisitive you can move the mountain DEAR BAISED : )

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  31. Scorp man said:

    This description is just so true! Except the leaving after manipulation part. I’d never leave my aries girl (and make her life a living hell if that bitch tries to leave me) and even haunt her if I died before her.

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    • Anonymous said:

      That is not only creepy, but illegal dude. Look up the definition of stalking, assuming she gives a $hit enough to care; otherwise, yours is just a pathetic exercise in futility.
      An Aries can never be possessed. It would be wise to steer clear of them unless you have thick skin. The typical Aries does not need others but rather chooses who he/she spends time with. If you can handle being cast aside for hours, days, or even weeks on end then go for it, but from my experience, the Scorpio tends to be very needy and clingy until he/she is no longer interested in the current toy. I do not think Scorpio/Aries is a good combination. Try a Pisces.

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  32. cm said:

    To Kevin Phung,

    What an in-depth, wise and reflective analysis of the Scorpio psyche. I was especially impressed and enlightened by your observation that the Scorpio’s innate tendency towards survival is just that – innate. It is not something cultivated as a result of personal strength per se but is rather an inborn trait. It is simply just there and can be a challenge at that, despite perhaps its advantage in the very long run. ( I use the term “advantage” since this aspect of the Scorpio forces one into the depths. And though this is never an easy place to be, the sheer difficulty of being immersed in such circumstances offer a greater chance for true self mastery and transcendence of personal weaknesses than most other signs.)

    And to all other readers:

    The innate tendency of Scorpio towards survival is very similar to the Piscean (I am one) innate tendency to forgive and forget. It is not something that the typical Pisces has a very difficult time doing, most of the time- barring a truly horrific event. It is simply an inborn “gift”. In fact, there are many times when I myself wish that I could STAY angry at someone who has hurt me. But I find it next to impossible to do because I have the (again, inborn – not cultivated – or at least not in this life) gift of being able to see beyond the surface and into the true motives of the soul. And when one sees this and can empathize with it as they would their very own emotions, then how can one stay truly angry at another? It is like looking into a mirror and seeing a sliver of one’s own self. Admittedly, this type of empathy can be very confusing and sometimes even detrimental to the young, still evolving Pisces – because he or she often has not developed the (very NON-innate) ability to separate his or her emotions from that of others outside themselves. They have the tendency to become so absorbed in the experiences of others as if they were their very own that frequent misunderstandings often occur – especially in love relationships.

    I bring this matter to the fore because I do believe that (an evolved or evolving) Pisces is the one sign that might be able to soften the edges of the average Scorpio. True empathy and forgiveness can overcome just about any difficulty. The question is – how great is the difficulty and does the person facing such a challenge have just as great or a greater measure of forgiveness and love to overcome it? I will provide two examples. The first is this: I once had a Scorpio boyfriend who was given to creating all sorts of difficult scenarios and though sensitive himself would say very mean and provocative things to create conflict between us. At first I dealt with this by “mirroring” the same behavior towards him, to show him firsthand how his behavior affected me. This lasted only a few days because I truly did not have the intensity of anger towards him to keep up the charade. It was far too exhausting and not in my real nature, though I did put on a good act. Besides, I figured there had to be a better way. Then, one day when I was feeling especially calm, I was presented with the perfect opportunity. My Scorpio was acting up as usual and I gently stopped him mid-sentence and said something along the lines of, “It’s alright. You don’t have to say that. You know I would never do anything to hurt you.” I genuinely meant it. I touched him lightly on the shoulder as I said it, willing my peaceful energy to somehow rub off on him. It worked amazingly. He immediately calmed down and for a moment I caught the rarest glimpse of a pure child’s heart. Our problems from there on out were minimal to none and though we are not together today, we do remain friends. Real, actual friends. The key is – and this is key: YOUR INTENTIONS MUST BE 100%, ABSOLUTELY PURE. Nothing can be artificial or faked. There must not be a trace of hurt or anger….. And you must hold within your heart the desire for the other to feel love and peace. You must do all this even while you are being relentlessly attacked and have every reason to be angry or to fight back. It’s the only way it will work and rightly so: True anger and antagonism can only be overcome by true love and patience.

    The second example is this: My father is a Scorpio. Growing up with him was very difficult. He was abusive both verbally and physically. He was and is a tortured soul himself. I understand this and I forgive him in the sense that I hold no hatred towards him for the past transgressions. On the contrary, I feel quite sad for him. BUT…. his anger and hurt surpass my present ability to overcome it with love (even though I have forgiven him) when he launches new, outright attacks against me. The attacks are so cutthroat and insensitive that I find it very difficult to only hold love in my heart when faced with it directly and in person. There is a portion of me still that wants to protect myself. Paradoxically, in order to overcome this type of hatred, there CAN BE NO DESIRE to protect oneself. Desire to protect = underlying fear, which there can be no room for if one is to overcome anger, hurt and hatred. There can only be 100%, pure, undiluted, constant love. Since the force of my love cannot at present surpass/defeat the force of his anger, the only choice I have (unless I want to allow myself to become completely annihilated by him and eliminate any future possibility of being able to help him) is to retreat. Therefore I do not talk to him, nor do I ever visit or otherwise communicate with him. And I do not plan to do so until I can say with total confidence that there is nothing he could ever do that I could not defeat with love. One day I realized that he would take this course of action on my part to be a sort of retaliation, as that is how a typical Scorpio would view the situation. In fact it is nothing of the sort. It is merely preservation of the self on my part to gather my resources, work on my own shortcomings and muster all the strength and love required to overcome his many demons. Until then, any contact with him will be useless at best and damaging at worst to us both.

    To any women (or men) who have suffered hurt from the Scorpios in your lives I advise this: Either love them unreservedly and without fear, or leave them to protect yourself (especially in extreme situations) until you have been able to work the magical alchemy that transmutes anger into peace. It can be done – but only if you’ve overcome your own fear and shortcomings. If you are not evolved enough to do so, then keep working at it until you are…even if it takes a lifetime. This goes beyond healing relationships with Scorpios and extends to healing the world. For how can one start to overcome the suffering of the world if one cannot overcome the hurt and anger of one of its most sensitive natives? Scorpios can teach us all an important lesson, whether they consciously mean to or not.

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    • Anonymous said:

      Very insightful but playing devil’s advocate here, isn’t what you suggest just enabling their behavior?
      I find the behavior deplorable and in no way acceptable regardless of how they may or may not feel. There is such a thing as common decency and respect and it is earned not freely given.
      Shouldn’t we try to teach them to self advocate and heal themselves so they stop hurting themselves and everyone around them?
      Something else to consider, as a Pisces, is it reasonable to suggest your level of patience with not just Scorpios but with all signs, is reminiscent to being the last sign in the zodiac? Perhaps given the nature of the sign, you are forever doomed to put everyone else first even when they don’t deserve it. It may be that the last sign is more evolved in forgiving others but less evolved in justice and balance and no I’m not a Sagittarius though I love them dearly.
      Some food for thought anyway.

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      • cm said:

        Hi Anonymous (dated 9/29/15 @ 4:20)-

        First off, thank you for taking the time to read my rather lengthy post! I’ll address your initial question about enabling bad Scorpio (or any sign’s for that matter) behavior. Bear with me, as it’s sort of a two part answer:

        1) It does indeed turn out to be enabling if the “forgiver’s” (for lack of a better term at the moment) motives and general internal feelings are anything less than 100% pure. Meaning, the act of forgiving is only really “magical ” (in terms of it actually working), if the one doing the forgiving has no shred of resentment, fear, anger, selfish desire, etc. Otherwise, the bad behavior will continue and the would-be forgiver does unfortunately turn into an unwitting enabler. So the caveat would be: Do not try this “at home” unless you are fully certain (and one will know because they won’t even have to question it) that you have nothing but total love and entirely unselfish intentions. If you are not certain that your forgiveness comes from any other place besides complete love and all that this encompasses, then my recommendation would be to either a) Let it go and leave for good OR b) Leave to work on yourself until you can overcome the situation and then come back and “conquer” the demons, if that is what is truly desired.

        2) If all of the pure motive prerequisites are there, then a sort of (what I like to term) alchemy takes place and the bad behavior is eliminated – usually either instantaneously or within a very short time period (say, a couple of minutes). In this case, enabling of the behavior does not occur. Instead, elimination of the behavior occurs. So both people are effectively released from their respective victim/perpetrator roles. Again, I can only speak from experience but it is a lifetime’s worth of experience with not just Scorpios, but also others over the years and it does work.

        You raised another very important and thought-worthy question in your response:

        “Shouldn’t we try to teach them ,Scorpios/abusers> to self advocate and heal themselves so they stop hurting themselves and everyone around them?”

        That was my gut reaction for a long time as well and I used to become very internally angry and in some ways have even looked a bit down on people who exhibited a total lack of caring or awareness to others vis-a-vis their bad behavior. My thinking was, “I’ve had a fairly tough life and I’ve managed to rise above a lot of it without treating others badly, so why can’t everyone else? They must be really weak.” To be honest, there are still times when my inner thoughts are pulled in this direction. But if I really stop to think about it objectively – and I do have to make myself do this in order to put it all in perspective at times – I remember that we all have innate weaknesses and strengths, including me. Someone might look at my tendency to be somewhat of an idle daydreamer and think, “What little motivation. She is wasting precious time.” And that person would be absolutely right. It is something I am aware that I need to work on and have to make a conscious effort to do so every single day because it does not come naturally to me. I do not have the innate passionate drive of Aries or the very hardworking Virgo ethic or the practical Taurus nature, for example. True, as the last sign of the zodiac I can “call” on these traits. But – they are still character traits that must come with great effort on my part. This is what I have to learn. It’s part of my challenge. My tendency to forgive and general insightfulness as regards human nature – this is a strength and comes fairly easily to me compared to many other signs. It also happens to be what has enabled me to not harbor the bitterness and anger that turn some others into the sorts of dark abusers that people who have been referring to on this post (bad Scorpios, etc.). So in reality, maybe I deserve some credit for not turning into a total monster but not really that much, because it’s just not part of my DNA, astrologically speaking.
        But to cut to the chase – the most important part of your question involves the concept of “self-healing”. It’s interesting because some people, depending on their circumstances and areas of strength are able to completely turn themselves around (“self heal”) entirely on their own. I do happen to think this is the exception to the rule though, as we do not exist in a vacuum and often do need help in some way or another. We are all learning and it does sometimes take another person to help someone learn what they either do not know or what does not come naturally…. A teacher. I won’t go so far as to say “It Takes a Village” but sometimes it does take the example of at least one other person. Some people have grown up never having had any good examples for how to deal with disappointing, frustrating, angering situations other than lashing out to some degree or another, at someone else – or being manipulative or any number of other negative responses. Others, like Scorpio, are born with the very difficult view into the darkest corners of the human reality and this can be a real beast to be faced with on a daily basis – especially without the softening edges of innate sunny optimism of say, an Aries, Gemini, Sag, or Aquarian for example. When one is constantly faced with this view AND they have not been taught how to effectively work through their negative emotional responses, well it’s an explosive situation and you then end up with the proverbial “bastard”. This person does need to heal and does need to self-advocate – but in many of the worst case scenarios they need a “jump-start” if you will, involving someone who can provide a living example. I’m not saying it’s impossible to do it without help from anyone but it is considerably easier to do when one has help, and good examples to learn from. I liken it to having an equation placed in front of you and not being able to solve it because you’ve never learned the math to do so. Similarly, when a difficult situation (ie- “life”) is put in front of someone who has never properly been taught at least a few ways to manage with it all, they are going to have a really rough time solving the equation of life. Sure, they could somehow muddle through and teach themselves through trial and error and finally figure things out. Even more ideal though, would be to have someone who can offer unconditional love and also teach how to offer it as well. Then, someone who is struggling, might be able to start the process of healing within a few minutes as opposed to a few years. Yes, they’d have to carry on with much of the process on their own from there- but a jump start of love from someone else really works wonders. It is just this that some Pisces have the ability to offer. I shouldn’t extol the virtues of the average Pisces too much — many are truly lost souls who have a terrible time managing in this world themselves. They can be terrible deceivers, absolute time wasters, completely weak-willed and all the rest. But at their best, I do think that they were born to teach others how to love… and this does in fact act as an instrument to self-healing.

        And finally to address your last very important point:

        “Something else to consider, as a Pisces, is it reasonable to suggest your level of patience with not just Scorpios but with all signs, is reminiscent to being the last sign in the zodiac? Perhaps given the nature of the sign, you are forever doomed to put everyone else first even when they don’t deserve it. It may be that the last sign is more evolved in forgiving others but less evolved in justice and balance”.

        Well, this is indeed food for thought and requires answering on a number of levels. I will try my best… Ok, so the amount of patience that an honestly developing Pisces has could probably be rivaled by few other signs – Taurus, being one of them… and (ironically,given the subject matter of this post) Scorpio being another. I would by no means expect the average Aries or Leo, for example, to easily acquire the type of patience and (seeming) self-abnegation that comes much more naturally to a Pisces. Though certainly an Aries or a Leo COULD do it – but a much greater effort would be involved. So, the surface level answer to your very insightful question is yes – Pisces are in some way “doomed” – or “fated”, let’s say – to have the more automatic response of putting others first – and yes, certainly when they do not deserve it as well. BUT there is the matter of free will and discretion to be contended with, which we all have.
        I will explain…..The Pisces who is interested in learning and evolving will eventually come to understand that yes – he or she was born to in some way serve others – BUT, the circumstances under which they do so and the motives from which they operate are for them to decide (free will) and this determines the outcome in all cases dramatically. A confused and un-evolved Pisces would put everyone else’s problems first even while he or she is unemployed, financially unstable, emotionally undisciplined and all the rest. In this case, the desire to put others first is manifesting negatively as it is not coming from a pure place. In these types of cases, Pisces help others in order to avoid having to face the more considerable challenge of facing and solving their own problems. They are acquiring their self worth by helping others, which is not a pure motive. Putting others first in its highest form should come with no strings. Acquiring self-worth through the process of helping others is in fact a “string” of sorts. Therefore the outcome is usually negative for both parties – as: a) The Pisces is not truly solving his or her problems and only putting off the inevitable b) They are not solving the problems of the one they are trying to help in any long term fashion because their motives are not pure. And as mentioned earlier, when motives are impure, the results are never what is either needed or truly desired.

        Contrast this with a Pisces who has managed to focus on developing their own strengths and eliminating their weaknesses to the greatest extent possible. This sort of person is not a vampiric “leaner” or is learning not to become a vampiric (stealing another’s vitality) leaner (as Pisces so often are, emotionally speaking) and does not think of helping others in terms of how their own fragile egos and self-worth can be bolstered, nor as a way to procrastinate in dealing with their own problems. Now I should point out that very few of the weaker Pisces do this consciously (that is, measure their worth in terms of whom they help or “put first”). Nonetheless, this is exactly what is typically going on. But a Pisces who is operating from a place of purity, who has learned to become truly and completely selfless, is not weak and is not doomed. They are serving their ordained purpose in this life. They have learned the very difficult (and very surprising, in fact) lesson that to put others first with no expectations of gain for the self, actually gains them (and the other) everything. The thing is – and this is also very paradoxical in a way – even while KNOWING that they will gain in putting someone else first, they have to banish this outcome as a motive for acting/helping – if that makes sense. The good news is that once the other Piscean tests have been passed (deception, weakness of will, idle daydreaming, etc.), this banishing of unselfish motives comes without effort. It is the “reward” you might say, for passing the other very difficult tests. I should emphatically state again that those tests must be passed on varying levels before Pisces can ever operate from a place of true purity in every single scenario they are faced with. The degree to which they have passed these tests will measure the degree to which they can truly love and help others. I cannot speak for other signs but I suspect each has their own set of tests to pass as well before they are able to offer this type of love.
        And you are right — this sort of Pisces will not stop to ask, “Does so-and-so really deserve my help?” This is because, having reached a certain stage of “evolution”, they know that in helping the other (as long as they operate from a pure place), they unquestionably have the ability to transform themselves and the other for the better – sometimes in a matter of moments. If you already know that you are going to transform an abuser or even say, a murderer (only the MOST advanced can deal with these outer extremes by the way and I suggest NOT trying if one does not already KNOW they can do it), then you wouldn’t really waste time asking if it’s deserved. Perhaps this is a better example – There is a neighborhood bully who deserves payback, punishment, etc. for his or her bad behavior. Alternatively, if you knew that in the snap of your fingers you could bring them straight to his or her higher, better self, would you really want to waste time with all of the punishments? No, you’d want to get right to the positive result and put things right again without perpetrating yet more pain. That is, unless you were still mired in fear, anger and the “desire to teach a lesson” yourself. And then the magic of transformation would be impossible. But what better lesson to teach than the one of positive transformation? None that I can think of. In doing so, you release both the “injurer” and the “injured’ from their respective pain.

        And finally (really finally!) I should say that if I make it sound as though this is all such an easy thing to do (selflessly help others in such a way that alchemy is achieved) and that most Pisces can accomplish it, that would be the furthest thing from the truth. Very few that I know have managed to accomplish this to the “nth” degree. I think I have accomplished it to an advanced intermediate degree but am by no means an expert. The point though is, that it is POSSIBLE. And it is the Piscean task to accomplish. Just as it is the Aquarian task to pour forth the waters of knowledge to humanity without cutting themselves off emotionally and just as it is the Capricorn task to preserve the best of all that has gone before without falling victim to becoming a cold, calculated “user” and preserver of the status quo simply for the sake of preserving the status quo, just as it is the Libran task to administer justice in a fair and objective way, without malice, when there is no one who is capable of either judging impartially or initiating a true transformation – in order to preserve safety, balance and order in society (without succumbing to the typical Libran indecisiveness) … I could go on…. But beyond all this, it is the ultimate task of ALL the signs, to incorporate the BEST of EACH sign in themselves and discard the worst. An Aries must retain their optimism and zest for life but learn patience, a Pisces must retain their desire to help others but learn the meaning of disciplined action, a Leo must learn when to be humble while still beaming forth the brilliance of their Leo warmth, etc.

        If we could all manage to accomplish this ultimate task, what a better place the world would be. For most though, it takes a number of rides around the astrological wheel of life. :-) And help from others…. For my part, I owe a great deal – I’d say at least 80% of my growth and evolution – to a far more evolved Aquarian, who has taught and continues to teach me much. And for that I am truly grateful! I wish we all had such helpers and champions. :-)

        To the best in us all,

        A Pisces

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  33. cm said:

    An addendum to my earlier post –

    There are a few proof reading errors which I cannot help but point out and correct. I meant to type “abnegation” not “self abnegation”, which is entirely redundant. I also meant to type “calculating” not “calculated” in the second to last paragraph when referring to Capricorns….. There were one or two other errors but I already forget them now and don’t have time to reread the original post at the moment. Please overlook any grammatical or punctuation errors, which were committed due to haste and lack of proof reading! :-)

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  34. Keke said:

    This article seemed very harsh, almost scary. I don’t think being a ‘scorpio’ makes a man this way. No way..! This just sounds like a plain old douche bag.. It’s like saying “Hi. I am total dick but only because I am a Scorpio.” Ha. Too funny.
    I am a Virgo and my BF is a Scorpio (11/09) who is 4 yrs younger. I do agree they are extremely sensitive as I am too and he’s told me he is. He’s also told me he’s opinionated to a point of sounding like and asshole. That’s cool, it’s an opinion, be an ass. He’s also heavy into politics. Somethings I find funny when he gets upset but I keep those thoughts to myself as it’s just not polite to tease him or anyone for that matter. For example; last week he was really upset about the whole ‘gun’ issue in America, saying they are for cowards, etc, well I told him I didn’t care as much because unless he had a great plan to change it what is one to do. He then asked if I would do him a favor and go f*ck myself. Lol I was a bit surprised by that. But anyways, all is smoothed over. We have only been dating for 5 months. Oh, and the second time I came over is when he told me he loved me. Wow.
    I am not sure how to read him but I do know he is very sweet and kind although he does seem to get annoyed at really small things. I read all these comments and it amazes me. I always try and remind myself of scorpios basic traits and hope like hell I see things coming. But we virgos have our own way of doing things as well in relationships. You could say we manipulate a little too at times, especially with emotions :) Lets just say I know how to play when needed, to get my needs fulfilled as well.
    I just think ppl should be nice and not try and screw everyone over. Life is too short. Make love and be happy :)

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  35. hmmm said:

    wow. that was accurate.

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  36. Psychoscorpio addict said:

    I laughed so hard over this. Bravo! Ultimate truth and I didn’t even beleive in astrology …well I sure do now. This part is Godsballz spot on: HOW TO SPOT ONE
    When a Scorpio bastard looks at you, you will feel a strong urge to shed your underwear. He will have this baffling effect upon you, even if you’re in a very public place and you find him most unattractive.

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  37. Sojorner said:

    Interesting read….

    Here is my story.
    I am in love with a scorpio man and we are in the midst of a hot, illicit affair. My husband is emotionally and intimately unavailable.
    I met scorpio man online on a site specifically for sexual encounters. I was trying to hit the bullseye as far as what my needs were. I was neglected of the company of an attentive, sensual, sensitive man. Scorpio man played those parts spectacularly…

    After our first encounter, I found it hard to function since I had never gone outside of the marriage. I would daydream and think about and desire him constantly. The problem with that was scorpio man was so aloof and would never mention that he missed me that was (in between seeing eachother)…

    We saw eachother frequently and each time it was highly sexual. He turned me on and I relished ever moment with him. He started to do strange things like play love songs with lyrics about falling in love. He would stare and look at me and shower me with compliments. He would let me deeper and deeper into certain aspects of his life.

    In between seeing him, I was finding it more and more difficult to relate to my husband on any intimate level. I did not desire him anymore. This was devestating to me because I was not able to leave him (financially, logistically).

    One day between seeing scorpio man, we were texting (which the nature of was always very tame no matter how hard I tired to get dirty or intimate with him) and I asked him “do you miss me?”
    He never responded. Days before that I asked him “are you falling for me?” and he answers “no”. He then explains how delicate I am and how he does not want to take advantage of me.
    I exploded and yelled “I want YOU! I want to go to bed with YOU at night! I want to cook for YOU!” and he got angry that I was yelling at him.I felt so crazy! He says “well that’s not how you get it”….

    I stopped talking to him and he calls again to maintain contact. Me and my husband are in the same boat and he will not go to therapy.
    I am in love with scorpio man still! I asked him if he was just using me for pleasure. He said no and could I please let things grow on their own. I asked if he would let me go since I am having trouble with differentiation between sex and love and he said no. I asked him why and he says because we are attracted to one another…I feel like I am this guys sex slave…Help…

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    • cm said:

      Hi Sojorner,

      First off, may I ask what your sign is, as well as your husband’s? This will help me to perhaps offer some better advice.

      First off, I will say that by nature, Scorpio is aloof. Whether or not it is a surface aloofness or an aloofness due to lack of interest depends on the situation and the person. In your situation, I believe your Scorpio is being aloof and keeping a certain kind of distance because he is in fact falling in love with you – or he sees that the potential for this is there. He will not give you the assurance of knowing this however because Scorpios are extremely sensitive and fear getting hurt (never mind the aloof mask they wear) and they have to believe that you have earned their love in order to drop the surface act.

      With a Scorpio, yelling and pressure will not get you anywhere, no matter how frustrated you are feeling and no matter how much you want to get it all out. You must exercise great control over this or he will no be able to respect you and you will not get what you desire. I will say this though – it is highly unlikely that he is using you just for physical pleasure. He knows that he could fall in love with you but by nature, once Scorpios fall, they fall for good. He wants to make sure you’re the right one and that you’re ready for this kind of love. The fact that you haven’t left your husband is proof to him that you are not ready. Therapy really does not help if you are no longer in love with someone. The choices you have left are to stay in an unhappy marriage or to leave it.

      You sound as though you are not really having trouble differentiating with sex and love. You do love your Scorpio, as evidenced by your desire to see him and be with him. Now he wants to see what kind of love it really is. Is it real or is it more selfish and superficial? He won’t pressure you to leave your husband. That is not the Scorpio way. He will wait to see if you are strong enough and love him enough to find a way to leave your husband on your own, of your own volition. If you can manage this – without treating your Scorpio as a “safety net”, you will earn his respect. Scorpio must respect a partner before they will ever be able to truly love that partner. I think this is what he means when he says that things must grow on their own. I think he is waiting for you to grow and prove to him that you are strong and will do whatever it takes to be happy and/or to be with him. Or at least whatever it takes to get out of a bad situation and be strong on your own first. In fact, taking some time for yourself for a while is probably what you really need to do – but as it’s the most difficult path, few are strong enough to take it.

      You are not his sex slave. You are never anyone’s slave unless you allow it. So don’t worry about that…. :-)

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      • Anonymous said:

        My husband is a Cancer.

        I am so confused because I can’t figure out if we ever should have married at all.
        I have been reserching and it appears he is actually “emotionally immature” so it’s kinda like being married to a 12 year old. I am now pressuring him to go to counseling and stop ignoring everything I need from him.We shall see how that goes.

        The problem with Scorpio man is I can’t figure out if he is actually showing and operating off of traits of scorpio or nacssisism. The later being a very scary type of person.
        It bothers me that he cant reaassure me he feels something for me. He says he likes me.
        Also..I suspect that he is seeing other women.
        So I actually broke it off with him by text.
        He sent a very aloof reply “Good luck, I wish you the best”
        I just could not take it!
        It was just too much on my self-esteem. I am in recovery from alot of things (drugs, abuse) I can’t go on vibes and innuendo. I need a man to be straight up with me..

        But thanks for your input.

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      • Sojorner said:

        Thank you for the input.
        I respect it and it sounds very probable to be the truth.
        I am a Gemini (I know, hold back the gasps) .
        I tried to break it off with him and he refused to accept it and was so sweet about it, I could not follow thru with it.

        I just wanted to be sure he was not using me for sex (as the sex is incredible).

        I think he loves me but the husband is a x-factor and is defiantly putting a hold on things. I am being fesishious..

        When we make love, I know he is in love with me. Now I guess you are right about me leaving my marriage (simply because it is dysfunctional) and seeing what happens then.

        I will post a follow up. This thing will have to have a happy ending for someone…

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      • arieswoman said:

        Before taking this advice, ask yourself why you are still with your husband and why you did not just leave to begin with. Are you still in love with him and attempting to satiate what is missing until he comes around? Are you staying out of fear? I think it is important to first address this. I would hate to see you throw something away if there is an opportunity for repair and if you still love him.
        It is often difficult to differentiate between sex and love, especially with some men; i.e., the Scorpio. I know, I did it once. He is an all consuming creature and it wasn’t until I was out from under his constant vigilance that I realized just how much I was suffocating in his world. It was like a veil of darkness. Don’t get me wrong, while we were together it was wonderful and passionate just as you describe but I have no patience for the “games” (lack of better term) they play. I am very direct and I expect a direct answer and for someone I am intimate with to be forthright. This is why Scorpios and I do not get on very well together. But this isn’t about me, this is about you. The point I am making is that you can easily be sucked into their world without realizing it. Keep your wits about you and never stop listening to your head. Yes, by all means, listen to your heart, but make sure you give credence to your head from time to time as well.

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  38. cm said:

    oops – meant to write “second off”, not “first off” twice!

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  39. cm said:

    Hi again Sojorner,

    Wow! That IS a shocker! I never would have guessed that you are a Gemini. :-) Geminis are quite difficult to ensnare but I guess the fact that your Scorpio has hooked you is proof of their awesome power in that realm. (the romantic realm).

    I am also quite sure that the sex is amazing because, after all, he is a Scorpio so of course it’s going to be amazing. Scorpios are incapable of going halfway when it comes to passion – or anything else, really. One thing I will say though – is that typically (and I emphasize typically – not always), air and water signs have difficulty reconciling their very different emotional natures. Typically air signs (you are Gemini, which is air) are not as emotional and often skim the surface, preferring to keep things “light”. Water signs (Scorpio is one of the water signs) are not often “light hearted”. They are many things – kind, sweet, caring….but whatever the mask they might present to the world, they are quite deep and sensitive emotionally. Scorpios are not only very deep but they also have a DARK side – which if they have not learned to keep in check is capable of some pretty nasty behavior. So it always pays to know what kind of a Scorpio you are dealing with. Either way, they will typically “test” their lover, to see if they are going to be “in it” for the long haul. FYI – Scorpios in love are definitely in it for the long haul. They are capable of giving everything – and I mean everything including their lives- to the person they love. They really are beyond loyal if they truly know the love is real. But again, it must be earned. Scorpios have everything to lose when they fall in love – because they really do give it their all – whereas most other signs are not capable of giving in this way. It can take years for Scorpio to get over a love affair gone wrong – whereas the average Gemini would recover much faster.

    Now you might be a Gemini with Scorpio rising or a moon in Scorpio. He could be a Scorpio with Gemini rising or moon in Gemini. This will soften those differences in emotional nature between you two considerably. So it really all depends. Either way, compromises will need to be made. Just something to be aware of.

    Anyway, I wish you all the good fortune in the world. And I hope the outcome of this turns out for the best – for everyone involved…

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    • Sojorner said:

      Great distinct points of view..

      I think he is still playing the head games because I am still attached.

      It is definitely understandable.

      So I wil proceed with dignity and caution and try to figure out how to separate from my husband (we just don’t work).

      In the long run, I will be happier either way. I need to be able to live according to my truth and I hate to have had to have an affair to find it but it just happened that way.(Thanks for not being judgemental..I am still dealing with some guilt there as well).

      Scorpio man keeps me hanging. He tells me things in the heat of passion that is either passion induced, or his truth. I will survive either way.

      Thanks everyone!
      I will post an update someday.

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    • Anonymous said:

      Update:
      So I think I just passed a painful Scorpio “love test. Anyway..we are now engaged in late night love sessions since I work and cant see him during the day right now.
      He texts me that he wanted to see me, only two days since we had last seen eachother. I was excited and was like “I want to see you too!”
      So I wished I would have curbed my enthisiasm a bit because after that text convo, he was supposed to connect with me later in the evening…well he didn’t and he didn’t call thr next morning to tell me what happened. And not even the next evening and I was losing it!! I thought he may have been in an accident or something. I couldn’t believe he would just not communicate. Well guess what, he did just that. I sent a barrage of texts asking if he was oj and if I had done something. Anyway…he finally answered the phone and sounded guilty as hell and had some excuse…he then tells me he would call me back. I was so exasperated, I finally admitted “I AM IN LOVE WITH YOU!” by text and it was the craziest thing I have done (relationshipwise). Well, he texted back thruout the night telling me how sweet I was and how good of a soul I have. I just felt like a weight was lifted. Its All out in the open. I just asked that he be considerate of my feeling. He said he would…lets see what happens now…

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      • cm said:

        Hey Gemini,

        There are sure to be a long series of tests. :-) A helpful hint about Scorpios – they like to be the ones doing the chasing. THEY’RE allowed to come on strong and enjoy doing so…. but when the roles are reversed they become uncomfortable. So you correctly stated that a bit of curbed enthusiasm is always necessary with Scorpios…. but not so much that they think you are disinterested in them. It’s a fine line to walk and a real balancing act – until they trust you and love you enough to put a ring on your finger. Even then, it pays to be very aware. Example – if he texts you stating that he wants to see you, instead of saying “I want to see you too!” respond with a more subdued “I’d really like that”….. and then, don’t text another word until he responds – whether it’s an hour, a day a week or yes, even a month later. So you are responding positively while at the same time not being overly “chase-y”.

        Also – he may have sounded guilty because he knew that he was just doing one of those Scorpio torture games but remember – in his mind (no matter how sweet he tells you you are)he feels that YOU’RE the one who is guilty because you’re still married and in essence cheating. Not saying this to make you feel guilty as I’m sure you have quite enough guilt already but just want to give you some insight into the Scorpio mind.

        But anyway, sooner or later you are going to have to stop living the “double Gemini” life. :-) Something will come to a head sooner or later and it’s best to not put off the inevitable. Much luck sorting it all out!

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  40. jessica said:

    scorpio men is a wierd kind of guy, he hides all his secreats and wants to know everything bot you, hes very flirty & he never gets satisfied with one women. hes cheater he destroyes you emotionally.

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  41. azrael said:

    Ladies,

    I am a Scorpio man and just finished reading the very interesting article above. I could not help but laugh while reading as it was just too comical. As I read it, I was thinking that the author gives us Scorpio men way too much credit as the description above is that of a diabolical genius “lol”. One thing that has never been correct with the description of my sign (Scorpio) for me is the part of being secretive. I’m an open book and will tell you everything in thinking and my whole life story of you want to know it (not typical of a Scorpio at all).

    That being said, it is probably best that you not place matters of the heart on some silly fiction called astrology “lmfao”. You would all do yourself better to just get to know your lover based on their personality as an individual and not some false stereotypical broad description of a zodiac sign created by someone in order to make other people feel good about who they are. Basically, what I am saying is, get a grip ladies. Find the man for you regardless of the month he was born in and build an honest relationship. I’m just glad I’ve decided to stay single.

    If anything is true about a Scorpio man, it’s that they know how to play the same game most women play that drive men nuts. Hell someone has to give you crazy women some payback for your erroneous and psychotic mind fuck games and torture techniques that cause men to lose their children, homes, and careers. Guess we can say, two can play that game.

    Later,

    Scorpio Male

    P.S. Have you all dropped your panties yet?

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    • cm said:

      “Hell someone has to give you crazy women some payback for your erroneous and psychotic mind fuck games and torture techniques that cause men to lose their children, homes, and careers. Guess we can say, two can play that game.”

      Payback indeed. Spoken like a true Scorpio… but one that perhaps protests too much! :-D

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  42. Virgo female with little knowledge of people said:

    I have been doing a personal research on scorpions and their tantrums and everything linked to them only because I was obsessed over one for a long time. First and foremost, there are no personal grudges as have not been in more than a single relationship based on which I wont judge them on my point of views. However, I must admit if their scorpion sign dominates their astrological chart in more than 2 houses chances are that such a person is bastard by nature. Now how can I say this is the next thing you would ask. Well, whether by luck or my stars were too fortunate that I have several zodiac signs on my own chart including the scorpion in two houses, to highlight their tantrums I cross check with mine, this way its known that I understand some without being in a long term relationship at all (literally at all), I am a lazy person unless I wish to work hard, being a Virgo (sun only no other house i have has virgo), I know how to escape work and do it when I am pleased to do it. So here is story part I
    1) When I turned 18 I was proposed on New Yr night for love by a scorpion male (MY FIRST LOVE), this man knew how to ring the bells of my heart, mind, body & soul. Thats how he captivated me, causing dreams, hallucinations, imaginations and longing to be with him. Although he himself wasnt upto my standards, it was a compromise in love(blinded). I was silly as too young to analyze well, but he used me for money and whenever he needed some true emotions to satisfy his ego that he is special. After a year of relationship he simply put a cold shoulder and never replied to my msgs or calls (this is how i learnt to not be misused by these tools ever again and now use it only for work and extremely necessary social needs), cried bitter tears and one fine day his friend calls me letting me know that the photo he showed me earlier was not of this sis but his wife. Not only that, it was found that he was dating two other women besides me(THIS IS WHY I DO NOT AND WILL NOT BELIEVE THEY ARE LOYAL NO MATTER IF PEOPLE CALL ME STUBBORNISH OR RIGID). Learnt a lesson of lifetime after which relationships were a means to mature and understand who is really worthy of getting the whole of me. (MARRIED AND HAPPY WITH A LEO MALE ALTHOUGH WE HAD OUR OWN UPS AND DOWNS BUT TOO SMALL A DEAL IN FRONT OF SUCH ASSHOLES—–>SCORPIONS)

    2) So now about the judgement portion, have had a manipulater who managed to drive me crazy and obsess over him, to a point that I would repeat some part of my early years of stupidity of imagining, dreaming, blah blah, so the oversmart mind falls for another scorpion. THIS TIME, UH-UH BEFORE I CAN GIVE IN , I know things I didnt before. FYI: Being a loner myself its difficult to understand everything about everyone as less exposure. But because of a few people I have learnt true and real facts that would only have been known when its too late. Ive stopped in time before this accident takes place, I wont take a chance even if I really get attracted to his physical self because of mistrust, PLEASE NEVER PUT PRECIOUS TRUST IN THEM, BEST WAY IS TO BE YOURSELF AND NOT IGNORE THEM OFTEN, JUST BE SMART AND IGNORE WHERE ITS NECESSARY.

    3) If I leave affairs aside and talk about those other few people Ive met in life who are or were scorpions, they are bitches and bastards self obsessed ready to take over responsiblity (women) and ready to show off that they are responsible(men) kind of people, bitches usually want you to feel shit about yourself while the men abuse you till they can suck that last drop of your blood. Men are the kinds who are HYPOCRITES as stated in this article by some, so no matter ANY SCORPION TRIES TO SAY that not all are like that, F*** off double standard people, you attack from behind a person and do not confront unless its your wife, FACE IT. Such cowards that cannot even express. In real life they are nothing more than scum bags or addictaholics. Good qualities are good only for themselves and compete themselves rest shit for others. TRUTH ON YOUR FACE!

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    • Sojorner said:

      I agree!

      I was being led by my emotions and my vagina and I DO NOT play games!!
      I AM having to slowly detach from a bad marriage and am affair with a scorpio man exposed this side to me.

      Simply put..turns out that he is a narcissist!!

      So since he WONT leave me alone…I will use him for sex till im free and divorced!

      I hate that I am settling but.I CAN still.look myself in the mirror..

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    • Virgo female with little knowledge of people said:

      They are definitely secretive and by chance if its an open book type thats because of the upbringing and not their innate nature, its not wrong to hide certain feelings to avoid being hurt but its wrong to play with others feelings and enjoy inside not letting the other person know what is wanted of their targets. Its a perception not existent to make people go against them, its only to open your eyes and realize that you arent a bad person, thats what they are good at going, bring your energies down to eternal hell and pits that are way below any other star sign can bring you to. Not that other men dont flirt and misuse their strength, these star sign individuals do it way more than others. They are VERY VERY attractive because of the energy stored within them, sexuality is a weakness to humans and so they being most powerful can emit this energy so strongly that NO ONE CAN RESIST unless you have Jesus following from your heart or a spiritual background to live with strength, people who have the best will power can give in to them, infact the ones that experience these types sooner in life are better off as eventually they wouldnt choose them as life partner knowing the traits for a little fulfillment of lust tied to chains of torture for a lifetime. NO WAY JOSE!!

      I can keep on writing in terms of little details ive accumulated being a Virgo, and sorry I do have Virgo in Mercury as well couldnt help but correct myself on that(after all we do not just criticize others but ourselves too). Some traits to watch out for if you are getting into a relationship with a SCORPION:

      1) Do not play games, be straightforward, yet realize that you just cannot give in without knowing what your scorpion is like.

      2)Even if it means looking into their birthchart, do it to understand some part of the person and dont judge by that alone as some things will only show up on experiences in life with them,

      3) If they do not respond to your calls or messages and you know they are not the kind to do it, you need to drop such a person as soon as possible as thats one trait I would do if I want to play with someone(which I have never used even though i know how to do it – I aint a scorpion sun though). EVEN IF OTHER WEBSITES TELL YOU THAT ITS PERFECTLY NORMAL FOR THEM NOT TO REPLY YOU, DONT LET THAT BE AN EXCUSE TO NOT HAVE COMMUNICATION IN A RELATIONSHIP. So if its your first date clear it to your scorpion that for a relationship to be successful you consider communication as the most important aspect of it using phones etc. This way he/she will have no choice but to follow that protocol to be in relations with you, if they do not choose you they will refuse then and there. Also note, they make fake excuses all the time to avoid themselves being the chaser in love not in their convenience. Here you must let go of such a person immediately if its not your sixth sense anymore but you caught them red handed.

      4) Do not let them overpower you by domination at home or anywhere else when in a relationship as they will take over, also by not letting them dominate you are asking for extra marital affairs that they will mostly end up doing if they are not financial dependent on you. So here its all about your situations, if youre extremely beautiful, have the best brains or a lot of money, use it to not let your scorpion dominate, to deal with jealousy you need to be a person with less or no friends, unfortunately if you have a big circle of friends in many cases you will suffer the wrath, a matured scorpion may not trouble you as much. But again, these traits are way too prominent in both men and women, so age may not really change basic traits.

      5) They know how to choose words and selectively discuss favourite topics depending on who they are talking to, here you should know that the person is intelligent enough to convince what he is saying is fact or he knows what you know. It does not matter, this aspect of scorpions should be considered casual enough and not for decision making purposes of a life partner.

      6) CASUAL FLINGS IS BEST WITH UNMARRIED SCORPIONS AS WITH MARRIED ONES YOU MAY END UP IN COMPLICATIONS WHICH WILL ONLY SPOIL YOUR NAME & NOT HIM. UNMARRIED ONES ARE GOOD FOR FUCK ON BED OR OTHER WILD PLACES, CLEAR IT ALL WITH THE MAN THAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR CASUAL ONLY AND NOT SERIOUS.

      7) Being their doormat for a short period then taking over the house may sound like a great idea, but if you have left an impression that you are submissive, it will be necessary for you to stay the same to survive in the relationship. This is why being what you are from the very beginning will be a better choice.

      8) I dont care if i am making them more popular than other star signs but I know im saving lives from the entrapment of the masked devils bastards (THIS IS NOT MEANT TO PROVOK GOOD SCORPIONS IF THERE ARE SOME). But being careful is not being weak everytime. Sharing is caring.

      9) Hey Scorpions if you are reading this article and getting demoralized I apologize, but please read it where its necessary for you and not the part that does not apply to you. Appreciate it.

      10)Last but not the least, for the anger management when manipulated, you simply need to be quiet only when they are angry and then when the eruptions gone can talk, quaerelling with stubbornish individuals almost always is useless when heated up, this applies not only to scorpions but other signs that cant seems to want to listen when in an argument.

      Please forgive me for not being a social person as then I would probably be able to figure out a lot more about different signs, REMEMBER SCORPIONS ARE DEDICATED WORKERS THAT WILL DO ALL TO GET SUCCESS, this sign usually is successful in professional fields than in their love life, thats cause they know how to be selfish yet show concern yet show emotions that only exist in a fairy tale. They have deep waters and emotions to their own family only if they do, NOT FOR HUMANITY unless they are in a field where they are humanitarians in particular. SO ONE MAJOR POSITIVE IS THE MONEY FACTOR, if your mate is capable of generating it well, and you know that you are never going to attach yourself with this person, GO AHEAD FOR LONG TERMS.

      Regards,

      VIRGOISH WOMAN

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  43. Rata said:

    funny, but i am still recovering after a relationship very similar to the one described here, but with a pisces.

    i guess it’s up to the persons involved and his mummy dear (moms break boys early age and never give up damaging their selfesteem and relationships).

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    • Virgo female with little knowledge of people said:

      Yeah Pisceans are a lot better in terms of honesty and being more upfront, they will tell you that they are not looking for a long term relationship and that they wouldnt want to hurt you (from one of my affairs), however they can lie once caught red handed or something. But they will not take complete life out of you unless you asked for it inspite of them openly letting you know.

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  44. Virgo female with little knowledge of people said:

    I am shocked to find out though that unfortunately this new scorpio fellow is my twin soul, that makes it all the more painful to let go, but I will have to do that in order to avoid chaos in life. After realizing the truth its very difficult to live through in such situations without getting the pinch, my first love was a lesson to know that this would repeat itself in future and so even though I know there is no way I can be with the twin soul(the fact I personally dont want permanency either) is gonna hurt. Twin soul = Extreme intensity of love that cannot be expressed in words, its as if it exists before we met. Not a sexual attraction like we feel with someone that is for sure, as there is care and love that naturally exists if a true twin. Not a soulmate, this is where I had to land up wow. But I have already gotten over it partly and will fully be over it. No expectations to be together as we both are not ready to do that. Really dont know how many people come across such exteme scenarios. Being where I am there are no regrets in terms of money or love, yet life throws you challenges that are least expected. Scorpion my twin, yuk to begin with how devastating it is to feel this way. I compared my horoscope with this person, its a mirror literally and the times we met it was as if time stopped. These worldly attractions in spiritual and other forms is overwhelming, if it happened to you do share it here.

    Regards

    Virgoish woman shocked and emotionally drained without the need of it. GOD

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    • Jade said:

      I met a scorpio guy online 6 months ago and we would talk for hours on the phone everyday and he seemed to be really interested in me.3 weeks later we met up and the date was fun and interesting and while there was some intimacy, it was nothing beyond holding hands.However,i did tell him id like to take care of him.Anyway, he wanted me to go over to his house the next day and i said ill c, but come the next day i told him i just cant do it because im not the kind of person who rushes into sex.He was ok about it and we arranged to meet somewhere later that night,but he texted me 30 mins before time to cancel. I was a little annoyed considering the fact that i could have left my house and been on the way,but hey,it happens,and i did let him know at a later stage that i don’t appreciate this.

      Anyway,from that point on the frequency of calls kind of diminished and we only spoke once as he wS on his way to the beach.I told myself that’s it,I’m not going to initiate anything,no calls,no msgs,no nothing.A week passed and he called me and asked me why i had disappeared for so long so i told him I’ve been busy and we chatted for a bit and he told me about this family issue he has been having.I was very supportive and told him that he should relax and do stuff that makes him happy so he told me “ya thats why i called u” and im only telling you because u r so close to my heart.Genuine??I have my doubts. From that point on we were talking again pretty often,but not as often as before, and we agreed to meet a week later.

      The day of the meeting the attraction was still high sky like the first time and he was complimenting me non-stop about my looks,personality and mentality.He even told me he is surprised that im single until.Of course the sexual insinuations began and i let him know that im not a booty call and of he is looking for one he should find another girl. I even asked him upfront what he wants from me and he said to “do it” but he said it in a very derogatory manner.Anyway, we talked a little more and i told him that he should allow himself to feel love and enjoy it, to which he got a little defensive and told me he has decided to live for himself because he is not over his last relationship which i believe ended maybe 6 years ago.He even tried to turn the table on me by asking me why i care if i dont want commitment so i told him if the right person comes along im not against the idea.BTW, he initially told me that he is over his previous relationship.Anyway, as we were leaving he told me he really likes me and i told him he knows its not true because he only wants one thing from me.

      Anyway, i went home and we talked again that night and he kept complimenting my looks and that was that.He had said we would go out a few days later and that he wanted to take me somewhere of his choice.Of course it never happened and he never even called to cancel or say we need to reschedule.Furthermore,the following week we were basically running in circles trying to reach other until we finally spoke a week after the last meeting.

      He sounded very down in the call and i wasnt so happy myself.He wouldnt tell me the reasons why but he asked me why i sound different so i told him its because i dont like the way he requested sex from
      Me the last time we met, and i felt it was disrepectful.Additionally, i let him know that i dont tolerate disrespect simply because there is nothing he gives me that i cant live without and that i talk to him because i enjoy it.He apologized and said he would watch ehat he says because he doesnt want to hurt me and i thanked him and told him he should be himself just as it is but just refrain from this derogatory talk.Then i told him im here for him if he needs anything and asked him what i can do to make him feel better.He said lets just talk when i can and that was that. From that point on i just didnt call him because i didnt want to pressure him but i would message him every few days telling him im here and if there is anything i can do.Then one night i sent him a msg telling him that he is a beautiful person and he responded by saying he is full of shit and the entire message thread was just plain weird.He was even rude to me when i gave him a pet name and treAted me with disrespect despite the fact that i was only trying to support him.To be honest i got soooo mad and in the end i told him i wont turn my back on u but u were so quick to judge and u dont c how much i care.He then apologized and said he is sorry for being so rude and thats the biggest part of his problem and why he needs to be alone,and that he can see abd is grateful for my caring.A few days later he apologized again but i just wasnt ready to respond until a week later n i sent him a msg saying i had been disrespected by his words but ill pray for him. Of course he didnt respond.

      A few days later i ran into him and he looked down n told me he had been seeing a therapist(who knows)i hugged him and teased him a little,and that was that.A few days later i msged him telling him that whatever problem he is having i know he can conquer it because he is so beautiful and strong.He thanked me and said thats what he keeps telling himself but he is going through a lot.I told him not to thank me because im here for him and i believe in him.

      A few days later i ran into him and on that night i wish id stayed home.We said hi hiw r u then i told him i gtg so he said “where to?”and i said to hang out with ppl who actually appreciate me.He gave me the cruelest look ever n i told him i was just kidding n we should go outside to talk but he just rudely told me he doesn’t want to go outside,so i told him again im joking,and he was like yes but u know im having problems,so i told him yes and i just want u to know that there r ppl who love u n care bout u.

      Anyway,i felt guilty so i msged him an apology later and told him that i wont bother him again but i do love n care for him,a message which he ignored so i unfriended him on facebook because i think he made it cleAr he wants me out of his life

      Its been 3.5 months of no contact now but i miss him😓😓

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      • BK said:

        Jade,
        The story you describe is nearly identical to my own with a few details altered and you, my dear, had way more patience than I did with mine. I know you miss him, but I think he is toxic. My opinion of course. It wasn’t until mine was gone for good for a good 4-5 months that I realized just how far in the pit he had managed to drag my butt.
        Do I miss him? The intimate conversations, absolutely. The games and hurtful behavior, hells no. I finally told myself that no matter what he had going on in his life, if he truly cared, he would not treat me that way and he would not ignore me for weeks and months at a time. That is not real love. Sorry, but it just isn’t, and there is no excuse for that behavior.

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      • Jade said:

        Thanks BK!

        I also think his behaviour is unacceptable.We were supposed to be friends and i don’t understand how you could treat someone you care about this way,unless you never really cared in the first place.Furthermore, you don’t just go all this time without initiating contact if you care.It’s almost as if you couldn’t wait for me to leave just because i didn’t sleep with you.Funny how all of this is coming from a guy nearing 50s.I am 16 years his junior and i feel like i am dealing with a kid

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      • BK said:

        Absolutely hon.

        My new guy, while certainly not without his faults (we all have them) lets me be me and supports all my goals. The old one never did, only pretended to and when they did not align with what he wanted, he went into attack mode. So not playing that game. I feel like he didn’t derserve me and am so glad that I have found my new man.

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  45. butta said:

    This was so damn funny

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  46. Unknown said:

    Taurus woman here..I’ve been in a relationship with my scorpio man for close to 4 yrs..which almost 2 of them we have been living together. I fell totally head over heels almost right away..not sure why but whatever it was I was addicted from the start!! We had a few minor issues before moving in together but they worked themselves out..and mainly they were just bc of his moods. I broke it off a cpl of times but we couldn’t resist each other. Like other posts that I have read about scorps..I have never caught him in a lie nor do I think he cheats..no signs of that at all. He is highly sexual and complains to me bc that’s all he thinks about but he’s met his match with me in that area so we r fine. I may be a little more reserved than he is but I am willing to follow his lead and go along with his fantasies. My problem with this guy is he is emotionally exhausting. I can’t deal with his constant moods..he won’t talk about anything when it happens but waits until hes totally frustrated then says it’s over..then a few days later when he’s done giving me the silent treatment goes back to normal. He’s very affectionate when hes happy and I love that about him. He doesn’t smile much but when he does he lights up my whole world. I can’t really talk to him bc he gets very defensive and clams up. The times I have tried it ends with him breaking it off..then going silent. It’s a constant cycle of him doing this. We have even said we won’t say we r breaking up anymore but he doesn’t follow it ever. I find him to be very stubborn..selfish and lazy. With Me being a taurus..I’m all about taking care of him..this man does nothing but work and whatever else he wants to do which doesn’t usually include me unless there’s no kids around..I work as well and do everything else in the household including taking care of his child and my 3. He doesn’t go out partying or anything like that so most of the time he’s just off visiting his parents or whatever but it still hurts that we don’t hardly spend time together unless it’s in bed. He says I’m the best gf he’s ever had but brings up all the issues he has with me..and will never admit he’s at fault for anything. He holds a grudge like no other even with my kids ..it’s very sad. :( when he is home he’s withdrawn himself to the bedroom and hardly ever comes out. My kids are younger 5 and 7 and are always looking for affection from him but if he’s in a bad mood will not return it to them..it just breaks my heart. He’s like that with his own kid too. He stresses out about stuff I don’t even think twice about and I’ve mentioned therapy and possibly meds but he got extremely offended. He claims he tries to talk to me about the issues he has but he doesnt. His excuse is that he starts to and if he feels I have slightly made him feel ignored or feels I don’t care he stops and drops it..but only until a few more things have built up will he vent in frustration. I’m at a loss with this guy..I love him dearly and wanna stick it out bc hes not a bad guy..just a scorpio haha. He blames me for anything he feels is wrong..we definitely don’t see eye to eye on that..and I will challenge it if I thinks it’s totally ridiculous..there’s no point tho bc hes never wrong. I’ve never met a person so stubborn and uncompromising. .it’s his way or no way. My male friends say his comments to me are emotional blackmail..I just don’t work that way so I hardly ever recognize it but they do. I’m thinking before this guy destroys everything good about me ..I need to head for the hills. It’s just so hard bc he always comes back that he’s sorry and so loving after the fight..but it happens so often I can’t deal with it much longer. I wanna love him and try to help but I don’t think I can continue living like that. I feel sorry for him..and me too haha

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  47. cm said:

    Hi Taurus Girl,

    I’m a Pisces and may have some advice when it comes to your Scorpio guy, as I’ve lived with one (my father) my whole life and dated a couple as well.
    First off – a Scorpio will never be persuaded by anyone else to see a therapist (or take meds) unless he or she himself decides it will be worth it. So it’s not even worth the time to bother them with the idea. And they will almost never, ever decide that it is worth it because they were born with an innate understanding of the psyche that would challenge any psychiatrist’s knowledge,very frankly speaking. They could probably teach the psychiatrist a thing or two. Unlike most any other sign (except perhaps Pisces), Scorps were born with the curse of having an intimate view into the dark side of human nature. This makes them suspicious of most people at best and distrustful of them at worst. Also, ALL Scorpios are capable of bringing about great transformation in themselves – all BY themselves – and have no need for anyone else to make this happen, unlike most of us mere mortals, who sometimes require a bit of help and are not shy about admitting it. :-)

    So – how to bring your Scorp out of his periods of brooding and stress episodes then? How to bring about the transformation? Get to the ROOT cause. You mentioned he complains about things and has issues with you. What does he complain about as it relates to life in general? What are his issues when it comes to you personally? You did mention one thing that is crucial. You mentioned that he is very sensitive to slightly feeling ignored or feeling you may not care. This is a tricky thing because as a Taurus you are not hard-wired the same way as a Scorpio, or other water signs, for that matter. Scorps can sense the slightest change in the undercurrents and being so sensitive already (ESPECIALLY AS A MAN, in a society where men who are sensitive are many times looked upon as less of a man), he will shut down if he thinks the one closest to him (YOU) is not always ready and waiting to hear – and 100% perfectly understanding of his every hurt and upset (yes -even if it involves you. Especially if it involves you.) Since you are the more stable of the pair in this sense, you will unfortunately have to be the one to make an extra effort to go against your more emotionally unflappable grain in order to help your Scorpio out of what clearly seems to me to be a depression. Yes, it may be depression based on some issues with the relationship but I think it has much more to do with what he is doing with his life, personally – even though you don’t talk much about that in your post. What does he do for work? Does he enjoy it? Does he get along well with coworkers (my guess is likely not)? Does he want to remain in this line of work? Go back to school? Switch careers? Something else? Try to get him to open up to you about this and then do what Taurus guys and gals are so superb at doing – construct a PLAN, broken up into small, manageable GOALS, to help him achieve it! Write it down, make a checklist, come up with a financial scenario. Help him to believe in a reality that he will then go out and manifest – the way only a Scorpio can – when their willpower takes over and they realize they can make anything that they desire really happen.

    Taurus and Scorpios make for a great team!! They only thing presenting a challenge is the difference in hard wiring of emotion. Scorpios are born ultra sensitive and therefore very vulnerable to everything that may cross their paths – good or bad. Taurus are ultra sensitive to things more of the “tangible” sort – smells, sights, touches, tastes. They are not yet quite as tuned in to emotional undercurrents. This is easily enough remedied if you can brace yourself, forget your ego and approach your Scorpio as if you believe (and you really MUST believe) that he is a saint, a super human, the love of your life and capable of doing anything in the world that he wants to. He really is!
    Start off with something like, “Dear/sweetie/honey/some other equally endearing term, I know that you’ve tried to tell me about how you’ve been feeling about things lately and I have made you feel as though perhaps I wasn’t listening or didn’t care as much as I should. I’m so sorry and so sorry to have added to your pain in any way. I will do anything necessary to help you – and us- gain happiness and success. You draw up a list of everything that you want to happen – or just tell me and I’ll draw up the list – and we’ll figure out how to do it together. We have a long life ahead of us and I don’t want to waste a moment more of it without devising a plan and making it happen.”

    That’s it. That’s all you have to say. BUT – and this is the most important part. It’s not WHAT you say, it’s HOW the message is delivered. You cannot have an OUNCE of blame or hurt or grudge wandering around in your own psyche when you have this conversation or he will FEEL it (remember the Scorp sensitive to feelings and emotions) and shut down, even if you’re saying all the right things. You have to go in there, having thoroughly convinced yourself before the conversation that you love this man, that you will do whatever it takes to sacrifice for his needs and that there is nothing he can ever do or say that would make you love him less or leave him. Believe me – if you can do this – and do it time and time again – you will be able to help him to transform himself and you will have someone willing to drive a stake through his heart for you if necessary. Exhausting? YES. Maybe. Worth it? YES – because only a Scorp can give you that kind of loyalty with such fervor. NO other sign is capable of it. And if you can tap into that, you have a treasure beyond any worldly value. But it won’t come easy and it won’t come without a great deal of sacrifice on your end as well. GOOD LUCK! :-)

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  48. Virgo female with little knowledge of people said:

    ADVICE: DO NOT SPEND YOUR LIFE TRYING TO WORK THINGS OUT WITH A SCORP, CAUSE ONLY YOU WILL NEED TO DO THE ADJUSTING WHILE THEY GET TO DOMINATE, ITS A RATHER TERRIBLE EMOTIONAL STORM THAT KEEPS COMING BY WHEN LEAST EXPECTED AND YES ITS EXHAUSTING. MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE TERRORISED ME SO MUCH THAT I AM NOT WILLING TO PERMANENTLY COMMIT TO ANY SCORPIO EVER.

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